The Gracious Journey of Human Development as Meant By Our Creator.
I wonder what life would look like if we lived our lives like our Creator meant us to from the beginning?
We’ve known people who have told us that their family has been a Christ loving family for generations. Those kids birthed out of good families tell their upbringing from a healthy vantage point. Many of us have no clue what that kind of family could ever even look like, let alone experience it. And where would each of us be if we had been brought up in good, Christian families that were healthy? And then we could also wonder, “what is the definition of a healthy family that loves God fully”? That would be a question even I would enjoy hearing the answer.
I know without a doubt, that God meant our human progress through this hard life to be a good process and journey. I’m so glad that even with upbringings that were amazingly imperfect, He can make us whole and healthy as we turn to Him. It’s like a restoration process.
Personally, my religious upbringing was far from perfect. It was deeply unhealthy and out of that came some behaviors and responses from childhood wounds that drove me to want my own family line to change. I told myself that it was going to stop there and that my family could be different. I loved the thought that my own family unit could be healthier. And did that happen for me?
Not at first. At first, even though I wanted a home life and married life for me and my kids that could be completely loving and full of grace, it wasn’t there because it wasn’t in me. It wasn’t in my husband. How we were raised, even as Christians, was not healthy. So we were not healthy. I remember hating the way our family was with our three little children. It had become so much like my upbringing with little grace, laughter and love as we tried to live this Christian life. And I cried out to God one day to help our family to be what I could only imagine was a good and loving home filled with grace and laughter. And you know, He did! We started to enjoy laughter and humor with our kids, to have fun and not take things as seriously. We began to show more grace with each other and became more helpful to our children in their growth as human beings. But it took a lot of growth and healing to get there. And I so wish it could have happened sooner for my kids. I wish my husband and I could have begun our own family at a much healthier level. I love my grown kids. I don’t know how they truly feel about their upbringing. We’ve never had them say too much about their feelings about it. But I do pray they all start their adult journey’s with their spouses just a little more healthier as people than we did. I hope their little families can come into this world with a healthy perspective of God and marriage and growth. No adults getting married are perfect. Marriage is the long years of two people growing up as human beings and learning to work together and love together. But I do pray that my three children will enjoy their own families. And I can’t wait to be there for them and help them in any way I can and to love their children and show them Gods love as a healthier Grandma than I ever was as a Mom.
And for that I’ll be forever grateful.
I know without a doubt, that God meant our human progress through this hard life to be a good process and journey. I’m so glad that even with upbringings that were amazingly imperfect, He can make us whole and healthy as we turn to Him. It’s like a restoration process.
Personally, my religious upbringing was far from perfect. It was deeply unhealthy and out of that came some behaviors and responses from childhood wounds that drove me to want my own family line to change. I told myself that it was going to stop there and that my family could be different. I loved the thought that my own family unit could be healthier. And did that happen for me?
Not at first. At first, even though I wanted a home life and married life for me and my kids that could be completely loving and full of grace, it wasn’t there because it wasn’t in me. It wasn’t in my husband. How we were raised, even as Christians, was not healthy. So we were not healthy. I remember hating the way our family was with our three little children. It had become so much like my upbringing with little grace, laughter and love as we tried to live this Christian life. And I cried out to God one day to help our family to be what I could only imagine was a good and loving home filled with grace and laughter. And you know, He did! We started to enjoy laughter and humor with our kids, to have fun and not take things as seriously. We began to show more grace with each other and became more helpful to our children in their growth as human beings. But it took a lot of growth and healing to get there. And I so wish it could have happened sooner for my kids. I wish my husband and I could have begun our own family at a much healthier level. I love my grown kids. I don’t know how they truly feel about their upbringing. We’ve never had them say too much about their feelings about it. But I do pray they all start their adult journey’s with their spouses just a little more healthier as people than we did. I hope their little families can come into this world with a healthy perspective of God and marriage and growth. No adults getting married are perfect. Marriage is the long years of two people growing up as human beings and learning to work together and love together. But I do pray that my three children will enjoy their own families. And I can’t wait to be there for them and help them in any way I can and to love their children and show them Gods love as a healthier Grandma than I ever was as a Mom.
And for that I’ll be forever grateful.
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