What makes a friend, a Bestie?

Bestie.

How does one become a bestie?

I sit and think on this today

because it seems,

once you've reached a point

where someone else considers you

their bestie

and when the feeling is mutual,

it's because you've gone farther

than just the external of life

and you've gotten to know 

each other more deeply.

It takes time for this to happen.

It's like dipping your foot 

in the ocean.

At first it felt cold so you hung back.

Then you dipped a little more.

Pretty soon both feet were in.

The ocean is calling 

with its wide open space 

and refreshing water.

If you've never experienced 

the ocean and had a good time,

you are very timid to go in.

Especially if the water seems cold

to the touch of foot skin.

Friendship is like this.

You dip a toe in to test it out.

Maybe you make an effort

to invite someone over

or stop by for a visit.

It may or may not go well at first.

Things may feel awkward.

But then you dip again.

Somehow you just know

that you should.

I've never been able to figure out

why a certain one

God keeps wanting you

to connect with.

I know it's not an accident.

I know this because even,

when others would ask,

Why do you keep after this one? -

you just know this is what God wants.

The ocean is a beautiful place.

On hot hot days,

there is nothing like going out

for a swim.

It was made for our enjoyment.

Somehow we all just know that.

I think God brings us close 

to certain others

for things He alone knows we need.

The times I've shared deeply

in something called friendship

are times in my life I look back

and can smile with delight.

Kinda like after you've spent a day

at the ocean.

There's a wonderful satisfaction to that.

Relationships are not easy.

There is a vulnerability that occurs.

There are lots of issues 

in your own life 

you begin to notice 

as you rub elbows with another 

that must be dealt with

for the relationship to continue

in a healthy 

and mutually satisfying way.

Sometimes you don't even realize

how unhealthy you are

until you rub elbows 

and God let's you have 

a beautiful close encounter 

with another.

I think in a way, friendship

is like a science 

where God knows the outcome

to His very own 

science experiment.

And all of them are to help us grow

in beautiful eternal ways.

Oh if we could only see.

If only we could walk with Him

in deep humility of heart

knowing His ways are so perfect.

Bestie.

It's a beautiful God thing.

It goes way beyond our own

human understanding.